Leadership Key: What to do when your boss is a jerk

…And other such despicable bosses. So, you’re a Christian and you work in the secular workplace. Hey, even sometimes in the Christian world you can have difficult bosses. What do you do?

Some Christians refuse to work with bosses that are sinners. Some refuse to work in a secular workplace. I don’t believe this is a biblical approach. Jesus gave us the example of being in the world, around the angry, hurting and the filthy. He actually chose to be around them instead of the religious. He said it is the hurting that need a doctor.

1.Be a light where you are planted.

Daniel is a great example. He was a godly man. God gave him the ability to interpret dreams. He also had the honor of God’s messenger appearing to him and telling him the future of his nation.

He was employed and grouped along with the magicians in the king’s service. He was dragged away from his home and enslaved. He was a godly man who was employed by one the most carnal, heathen, evil rulers and who built a statue to himself. Yet through all this Daniel honored the king and served the king with excellence.

You can see Daniels humble and respectful demeanor toward the ruler in this passage when Daniel is asked to interpret a dream for the king.

19“Then Daniel, whose name is Belteshazzar, was appalled for a while as his thoughts alarmed him. The king responded and said, ‘Belteshazzar, do not let the dream or its interpretation alarm you.’ Belteshazzar replied, ‘My lord, if only the dream applied to those who hate you and its interpretation to your adversaries!

Then Daniel had to deliver the bad news to the king. He did so with great sadness and weighty heart when he could have glorified, even relished in the much earned judgement of his boss. Daniel did not judge or abuse his privileges. He maintained a steadfast integrity in the midst of much idol worship, orgies, drunkenness and sin.

2. Show honor because of the position.

Saul tried to kill David. While David was playing music to sooth his king, Saul shot an arrow at him. That’s a bad day at work.

Of course it missed. For years Saul tried to kill David. He chased him all over the countryside. Yet when given the opportunity David did not harm Saul. Sure, if you look at the selfish, egotistical, foolish behavior of Saul, he didn’t deserve to be honored . But David respected the Lord’s anointed because God placed him in that position.

8Then Abishai said to David, “Today God has delivered your enemy into your hand; now therefore, please let me strike him with the spear to the ground with one stroke, and I will not strike him the second time.” 9But David said to Abishai, “Do not destroy him, for who can stretch out his hand against the LORD’S anointed and be without guilt?”

All leadership placed above you in churches, government, or the workplace are there because they are ordained to be there by God.

3. Only the Lord is judge.

Daniel 4:22Your Majesty, you are that tree! You have become great and strong; your greatness has grown until it reaches the sky, and your dominion extends to distant parts of the earth.

23“Your Majesty saw a holy one, a messenger, coming down from heaven and saying, ‘Cut down the tree and destroy it, but leave the stump, bound with iron and bronze, in the grass of the field, while its roots remain in the ground. Let him be drenched with the dew of heaven; let him live with the wild animals, until seven times pass by for him.’

24“This is the interpretation, Your Majesty, and this is the decree the Most High has issued against my lord the king: 25You will be driven away from people and will live with the wild animals; you will eat grass like the ox and be drenched with the dew of heaven. Seven times will pass by for you until you acknowledge that the Most High is sovereign over all kingdoms on earth and gives them to anyone he wishes. 26The command to leave the stump of the tree with its roots means that your kingdom will be restored to you when you acknowledge that Heaven rules. 27Therefore, Your Majesty, be pleased to accept my advice: Renounce your sins by doing what is right, and your wickedness by being kind to the oppressed. It may be that then your prosperity will continue.”

This is the interpretation that Daniel gave the king of Babylon. It was judgement from God the creator of the universe.

Then it happened: 

Daniel:28All this happened to King Nebuchadnezzar. 29Twelve months later, as the king was walking on the roof of the royal palace of Babylon, 30he said, “Is not this the great Babylon I have built as the royal residence, by my mighty power and for the glory of my majesty?”

Psalm 75:7 It is God who judges: He brings one down, he exalts another.

You will never work for a perfect person because we are all human and subject to vulnerability and fault. Consider it a high honor to be considered worthy to work with a unsaved or heathen boss. You have a unique opportunity to be a brilliant light in a dark place.

What do you do?

Daniel prayed and fasted
David praised and worshiped God. He called out to  God for guidance.
You are commanded to love and to pray for those that despise you. God will either move you or favor you.
Prayer will move mountains and that mountain might just be your boss.

Thank you Father for this job you provided. I acknowledge that all good things come from your hands. I praise you in every situation regardless of my comfort level. I will praise you on my way to work. I will praise you and lift up your Name at work. And I will praise you going home. I lift my eyes to you because you are where my help comes from. I look to you for wisdom in this situation. Holy Spirit, give me guidance how to handle the situations I face today. Give me favor with my boss and co-workers. Guard my mouth so I will not utter an unkind work. Give me boldness when I need it. I pray for the heart of the unbelievers at work that have been blinded by the devil; that their eyes will be opened to the light of your Word. That you will illuminate their dark places. Give me opportunities to show your light, to share my testimony and to represent you well. In Jesus Name, Amen.

*all Bible scripture is from BibleHub.com (the best online Bible source…in my opinion)

Esther Lessons for Leaderhip Wives

Several weeks ago I was honored with the opportunity to pray with my sister-in-law. My brother is the pastor of a church and they were in the process of making a life-changing decision. They are the epitome of a faithful, Christian walk. They honor God with their lives just as we all should.

While praying for her I was impressed to go to the book of Esther.

Esther is a great book helpful in both spiritual and physical lessons. (I may do an entire series for women from Esther). In this particular situation I had an understanding of Pastor Wives from a different viewpoint. Being raised in a Pastor’s home, I see pastoral lives from an intimate viewpoint, but never from this  particular viewpoint regarding the wives.

1. She was an intercessor for her people.

Esther 4:6 …to go into the king’s presence to beg for mercy and plead with him for her people

Pastor’s wives are set in a unique place of leadership and set to pray and intercede for the people. Many people are called to be intercessors but few are set as part of the covering of the church body. That translates to a great authority in the spiritual realm over the enemy that seeks to destroy the local church body.

2. They are called, along with their husbands, to sacrifice their own goals, objectives, self, and desires, for God’s heart–the people.

Esther 4:10 …that for any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner court without being summoned the king has but one law: that they be put to death unless the king extends the gold scepter to them and spares their lives.

13 he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. 14 For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”

Just as Queen Esther was placed in her position for a time to stand in the gap for her people, so are Pastor’s wives. Queen Esther was willing to lay down her very life if necessary to save her nation. Everything she had planned for her life was changed in an instant when she was taken to serve her king. I’m sure that was no easy transition. She may have mourned for a time over her loss of freedom to choose her own life’s path.

3. Greater is God’s call than any path we could choose ourselves.

Pastor’s wives are so important. Their gifts, talents and calling, are often overlooked. God doesn’t just call and place the Pastor, he also calls the wife. God doesn’t make mistakes. He doesn’t underestimate the wife. If you struggle with feelings of unworthiness or fear of failing know that you are worthy of the calling and God is your source of competance and knowledge.

Thank you to all the Pastor’s Wives. Your selfless work is honored by our Heavenly Father.

This is my humble prayer for all Pastor’s Wives:

I ask forgiveness for all harm that has been caused by the people you lead. The sheep don’t realize the pain they cause in the heart of the shepherds. I pray that you will abound in forgiveness and grace toward the people. That God’s grace and mercy will manifest in your heart and mind as you serve the Lord.

I pray for a new found passion for your place of leadership. I pray that your heart is full of compassion for the people. That you see people the way God sees them. I pray that you don’t grow weary in well doing throughout all the trials and tests of pastoral leadership. I pray for renewed strength. For you to grow mightily in wisdom and understanding just as King Solomon was graced with supernatural wisdom to lead the people.

I pray that God heals your heart from all harmful words and deeds from people unwittingly used by the enemy. I pray all wounds are mended and set right. I pray God will set you in great favor among all the people. That people will bless you with their mouths.

I pray for a peace that surpasses all understanding in all circumstances because the Lord is in control.


You glorify God with your life. Bless you and Thank you!

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