Esther Lessons for Leaderhip Wives

Several weeks ago I was honored with the opportunity to pray with my sister-in-law. My brother is the pastor of a church and they were in the process of making a life-changing decision. They are the epitome of a faithful, Christian walk. They honor God with their lives just as we all should.

While praying for her I was impressed to go to the book of Esther.

Esther is a great book helpful in both spiritual and physical lessons. (I may do an entire series for women from Esther). In this particular situation I had an understanding of Pastor Wives from a different viewpoint. Being raised in a Pastor’s home, I see pastoral lives from an intimate viewpoint, but never from this  particular viewpoint regarding the wives.

1. She was an intercessor for her people.

Esther 4:6 …to go into the king’s presence to beg for mercy and plead with him for her people

Pastor’s wives are set in a unique place of leadership and set to pray and intercede for the people. Many people are called to be intercessors but few are set as part of the covering of the church body. That translates to a great authority in the spiritual realm over the enemy that seeks to destroy the local church body.

2. They are called, along with their husbands, to sacrifice their own goals, objectives, self, and desires, for God’s heart–the people.

Esther 4:10 …that for any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner court without being summoned the king has but one law: that they be put to death unless the king extends the gold scepter to them and spares their lives.

13 he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. 14 For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”

Just as Queen Esther was placed in her position for a time to stand in the gap for her people, so are Pastor’s wives. Queen Esther was willing to lay down her very life if necessary to save her nation. Everything she had planned for her life was changed in an instant when she was taken to serve her king. I’m sure that was no easy transition. She may have mourned for a time over her loss of freedom to choose her own life’s path.

3. Greater is God’s call than any path we could choose ourselves.

Pastor’s wives are so important. Their gifts, talents and calling, are often overlooked. God doesn’t just call and place the Pastor, he also calls the wife. God doesn’t make mistakes. He doesn’t underestimate the wife. If you struggle with feelings of unworthiness or fear of failing know that you are worthy of the calling and God is your source of competance and knowledge.

Thank you to all the Pastor’s Wives. Your selfless work is honored by our Heavenly Father.

This is my humble prayer for all Pastor’s Wives:

I ask forgiveness for all harm that has been caused by the people you lead. The sheep don’t realize the pain they cause in the heart of the shepherds. I pray that you will abound in forgiveness and grace toward the people. That God’s grace and mercy will manifest in your heart and mind as you serve the Lord.

I pray for a new found passion for your place of leadership. I pray that your heart is full of compassion for the people. That you see people the way God sees them. I pray that you don’t grow weary in well doing throughout all the trials and tests of pastoral leadership. I pray for renewed strength. For you to grow mightily in wisdom and understanding just as King Solomon was graced with supernatural wisdom to lead the people.

I pray that God heals your heart from all harmful words and deeds from people unwittingly used by the enemy. I pray all wounds are mended and set right. I pray God will set you in great favor among all the people. That people will bless you with their mouths.

I pray for a peace that surpasses all understanding in all circumstances because the Lord is in control.


You glorify God with your life. Bless you and Thank you!

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